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"When are you speaking to the Haim sisters?" a text reads. "I wanted to ask if I can become their extra sister."

There's just one problem: The sender also wants to be the Haims' fourth member. What's more, we are far from alone. Multiple famous fans have publicly begged for the role.

One thing is obvious something is at play. Sisters Este, Danielle and Alana launched their path playing gigs at neighborhood delis with their family. Presently, they stand as multiple Grammy Award hopefuls.

Like all the best bands, they're a inseparable trio. Their music videos frequently show them striding in sync down the streets of Los Angeles. In concert, they play with such pure happiness you find yourself thinking, "I'd love to be involved in that, too."

"The amount of times on tour that fans told us and said, 'After your show, I got a drum kit'," remarks Alana, the youngest of the trio. "It is the ultimate honor. That is recognition in itself. Our mission is accomplished if we can motivate young girls to form a group."

"And thus anyone gets an invitation to be the fourth member of Haim."

Grammy Nod

The trio are speaking from home, where they're recovering after an extensive tour in for their fourth album, I Quit.

They're right now reeling from the news it's been nominated for a top rock honor at the Grammys – with Haim the first all-woman band ever in contention for the trophy.

"I tune into the lists every year, so it almost feels like an out-of-body experience when your name is read out," notes Alana. "I needed to phone my sisters to say, 'Did we just hear this correctly or am I imagining things'?"

The importance of the honor resonates with the band.

"We really set out to make a guitar-driven album this time, so it's a huge step," continues Alana. "Yet we're just grateful for the women that paved the way."

Heartbreak and Laughter

The record was born from a phase of emotional upheaval. All three sisters were single, and the music inhabits that unique liminal space where you're glad to be free, but not yet ready to start anew.

The lyrics track breakups and partings. The sisters desire love, but not the relationships they've had. You can hear them determining in real time who they want to be.

"That's a perfect description, yes," says Danielle. "I Quit is like a slogan. You have to actively work on ignoring the outside opinions and saying, 'I don't give what people think'."

Refinement of Style

That recent toughness required a new sound – more raw and powerful than anything the band had done before.

For Danielle, who worked on producing the album, that began with the percussion.

"Percussion is such a specific thing, and I am so passionate about it," she states.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the subject of our memoir," quips Alana. "I've said it, our albums cannot begin until we find the right drum sound."

Anecdotes and Shared Camaraderie

The band's openness shaped the album's marketing, where the sisters disclosed some of their dating horror stories.

Someone broke up with Este over a health consideration. Alana shared a story of travelling to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a casual gesture at midnight.

"When you're going through these setbacks, you just feel like there's no light," explains Alana. "So to be able to laugh at those stories and have them tell you wilder stories, it's therapeutic."

A Secure Legacy

It's not difficult sense a change in the band. Today, Haim are more assured of their place in the industry.

They're top-billed acts, with chart-topping albums and an international fan base.

Yet the sister act will consistently be their number one commitment.

"My sisters and I have been making music since I was a young child," concludes Alana. "There is nothing else that we were meant to do. And I'm really fortunate we've reached this point and we're still making music."